Titles don't mean Shit!

Don't worry I'll get back to my story... I bet you are wondering "Why" I have decided to start a blog about my life. Well... I have been told that it will be therapeutic. Also there are several people who do know my story that are like "GUUUURL! YOU NEED TO WRITE A BOOK!" The last 5 years of my life have been nothing but what one would call CHAOTIC! My husband and I have been in and out of the courts dealing with Ex's and false allegations. Not just minor allegations but like MAJOR allegations things that you would NEVER, EVER, EVER think that your own family members would say or do to you. You are probably thinking am I ever going to tell you? I will but you will have to keep reading to find out.

Today, I want to explain me to you. I use to be a person that would just do whatever people wanted to do to not cause any waves. Have you ever been that person or known that person? I personally never wanted to make anyone mad and even if I didn't want to do whatever it was I would just go along so there wouldn't be a fight. If you honestly think about it how did you really feel inside dealing with life or people like this?? For me it ate me up. You will eventually have a breaking point and believe you me I had mine. Over the last several years I have grown as a person, as a woman, as mother, as a wife, and as a friend, and have found my voice and the people who I would just "go along" with and never argue with I started voicing my opinion and I guess you could say I have ruffled a few feathers. Through many sessions of therapy and crying my eyes out on MANY occasions I have had to find me. To be perfectly honest I love the new me. I am stronger, I am more emotional, I am able to tell you what's wrong with me (this one I'm still working on) but I am always a work in progress, and I have made HUGE leaps. I have learned to not let people get to me even though they have a "Title".

Now to the meat and potatoes of today... There are many people in our lives that we let run us because they have a "Title". I'm talking about Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister, Aunt, Uncle, Husband, Wife, Boss, ect. You get the point. What I have learned is just because they are family or have a title does NOT give them the right to treat you like SHIT! How many of us have let people with titles just rule our lives or stick their noses where they don't belong because they have a title?? I know I did. I did it for a LOOOOOONG time! We all do this in fear of hurting someones feelings or not wanting to ruffle any feathers, but who actually ends up being hurt or getting upset? That's right YOU or in my case ME! I finally got to a point 3 years ago where I had ENOUGH! I finally put my foot down and we could say shit hit the fan. These certain people with a title got upset because I didn't agree with them and told them the truth which they did not want to hear. Well sometimes the truth hurts. What do I have to say to that?... Sorry not Sorry.

Let me ask you this... If you had someone without a title lets say a friend and not a family member would you let them speak down to you or tell you what you should do, how to spend your money, how your vacation should go, how to raise your kids, how you should discipline you children? ABSOLUTELY NOT! You would say good riddance. So why is it different when a family member does the exact same thing and they expect you to just go along with it and just take it because they are family? We have been programmed that Family is everything, "Blood is thicker than water", and all those lovely sayings. Let me just tell you with my experience that is not always true. If it is for you I am so incredibly happy for you and I pray you never have my experience. My personal experience with people who are suppose to love you unconditionally will turn on you if it doesn't benefit them and they will join the most opposite side just to hurt you (an ex who they use to absolutely despise). I'm not talking about my husband or my kids so don't worry about that.

On a positive note and I will leave you with this... through this whole experience it has brought my husband and I closer, My dad's side of the family and myself closer, my mother in-law and I closer, myself and my kids closer and the biggest one of all is my faith in God is through the roof. So through all the nonsense we have not been broken and have only gotten stronger. I have found faith in the words and actions of God. I was never really religious until this experience and I can just tell you through it all I pray daily and ask God to watch over all of us and he has done so answering prayers in the smallest to the largest of ways and I thank him daily. Just take this little tid-bit here... if you are going through what may be your hardest of times, take a pause and bow your head and say a little prayer. He is always listening. You will get answers when you least expect it.